my job has the kind of stress where some days I use Maalox to take Advil because fuck it, it’s liquid.
and crucially, my White friends and neighbors, we need to get the fuck over this idea that being called or perceived as racist is somehow worse than actually doing/saying/supporting racist things.
get the fuck over it.
What we need is more White-on-White Education
For example, white people explaining to white people how being a broke university student doesn’t mean they’re not privileged; why being colorblind is most likely being racist; how finding two examples on google about white people being killed by police doesn’t mean black people are racializing police violence; etc.
yes yes yes we White people absolutely need to be keeping on top of other White people. So what if it makes your friends uncomfortable? So what if the conversations with your coworkers are awkward? So what if strangers on the internet think you’re an asshole? Whatever discomfort we might feel in confronting other White people, I feel pretty safe in saying it is minuscule compared to the all-day every-day barrage of aggressions little and large that POC are experiencing.
We need to be actively anti-racist. Merely saying or thinking, “I’m not a racist” isn’t a magical transformation like Cinderella’s rags turning to silk. Your Black friend who tells you they’re fine with what you say and do is not a fairy godmother who magically makes you into a “good White person.” It takes work. It takes humility. It takes teaching yourself and teaching others like you, and not leaving the burden of educating oppressors on the shoulders of the oppressed.
We need to do the work, White people. Otherwise we’re just racists playing dress-up.